What does the Bible have to say about the so-called gift of singleness? Does the phrase even appear in the Bible? This article reckons with this saying, and arrives at a worthwhile conclusion.
By way of a case study, this article considers appropriate steps to minister to those who are angry at God. It considers what such anger stems from, and also how such anger bears witness that we are designed for a lasting relationship with God.
Is "I don't know" a refrain from your children in response to your questions regarding their behaviour? This article shows how parents, teachers, or other caregivers can often use this as a cue to let a child off the hook instead of calling heart motivations to task. Thus, the author suggests ways to handle this response in an effort to disciple the children God entrusts to us.
Patients in hospital face many spiritual and emotional challenges, and so pastoral counsel in such situations needs to help patients work through these. In this article, the author employs the biblical metaphor of wilderness to equip caregivers for helping patients work through these respective challenges.
Can you guess what “fast food” conversations look like? This article talks about the tendency in family life to limit conversation to what is necessary, and about the rarity of offering something that edifies. It reflects on Ephesians 4:29, calling for conversations to reflect how Christ relates to us.
So often, the letter of James is interpreted on a purely horizontal level. But the author's interpretation of a passage like James 1:19 shows that James is concerned with more than strictly person-to-person relationships. To what exactly should we be quick to listen?
This article expounds on Matthew 11:28–30, where the Lord Jesus urges us to come to him and take his yoke upon ourselves.
Your view of your heavenly Father is largely determined by your view of your earthly father. This article suggests ways to dislodge tainted understandings of the heavenly Father and replace them with a truly biblical view.
Looking for clarity on the role of your conscience? Read this article to see both the blessing and limitation of your conscience.
How should you answer someone who asks, "Do people who commit suicide go to heaven?"? This article offers some wise counsel on how to minister either to those whose loved one has committed suicide or to those who themselves are close to suicide.
Do you live with a lot of regret? This article shows by way of biblical examples that the kingdom of Christ is to be regret-free, on account of the mercies of Christ.
This article gives some thought to the multi-faceted nature of shame, and shows how Christ enters into the lives of the shamed.
What exactly does "I do" at a wedding mean? Does it have anything to do with attraction? The article uses these questions to address one feature of real love, both within and outside of marriage.
Are you a caregiver for someone with chronic physical and mental problems? Are you trying to understand the changes in their personality, or how to love them in their changing circumstances? This article provides general principles for you to apply to your situation, whether that be caring for a stroke victim, an Alzheimer’s sufferer, bipolar disorder, or otherwise.
Likening it to a confrontation with someone with a loaded gun, the author suggests how to engage with and disarm an angry person in your life.
This article speaks directly to the depressed person, and speaks openly about depression. The author gives a picture of the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual dimensions of depression, and then moves into biblical principles and strategies for change. Though a relatively short piece on the subject, the author capably handles some of its complexities, and leaves the reader with the encouragement to persevere in hope through the cross of Christ.
This article holds out hope for those addicted to pornography. Powlison explains that God can and does transform the addict's imagination and behaviour, as the individual is challenged to face his behaviour, understand the deeper struggle, and go to God for his help in the fight.
In this article, Smith explains that sexual fantasies and masturbation harm people and their ability to have healthy relationships. These escapes are ways of playing god with others. Smith shares practical ways for building a new inner world founded on Christ’s sweet love that liberates and satisfies. The counsel in this article will help those who struggle with sexual sin to grow in their ability to have loving relationships.
As the conclusion to the series, this article holds out the restoration that God in Christ can bring to relationships broken by judgmentalism. Sande gives practical insight on what personal sanctification in this matter of judging might look like. He also speaks of the "expectant charity" we can hold toward someone who has done wrong in the past, as we can expect to observe increasing evidence of God's grace in our own lives and theirs.
In this second article, Sande notes that there are limits to making charitable judgments. In such cases—where further investigation may be needed—the goal of treating the neighbour with love still remains (per the ninth commandment). To that end, the author helps us get at the root of critical judgments, alerting us to three ways we judge that are destructive and costly to relationships.
What tendencies do you have in the judgments you make about others? In this first of a three-part series, Ken Sande reflects on judging by way of passages such as Matthew 7:1–6 and 1 Corinthians 13:4–7, with a view to offering practical suggestions on how to make godly, charitable judgments about others.
In this first of a series on the topic of bipolar disorder (formerly "manic depression"), the author introduces a case study, followed by a basic framework for thinking biblically about the topic and for engaging with secular perspectives on the disorder. The blog post then summarizes and interacts with the first of four secular books on bipolar disorder, identifying how we can benefit from the book and thereby help people live in dependence upon Christ.
Why is idolatry by far the most frequently discussed sin in the Bible? It is a problem of the heart, the chief object of God's concern since from the heart issues everything. Yet idolatry is also a social problem. This article considers the interplay between our hearts and the situation that surrounds us, and the implications this has for counselling issues.
David Powlison answers the question of whether anger is morally neutral or conditioned.