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Confrontation in Peacemaking

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  • John R. Sittema

This article is about the importance and place of confrontation in peacemaking. The author also discusses Matthew 18:15-17. Confrontation heals conflict.

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Cravings and Conflicts

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  • C. J. Mahaney

This article is about conflicts and fighting in relationships. The author looks at the causes of conflict, sinful cravings and desires in quarrels, reconciliation with God and people, and the confession of sin. James 4:1-2 is also discussed.

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Should I Counsel Couples Individually or Together?

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  • Jay Adams

What is the best way of counselling couples: individually or together? This article advises that it must be together.

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Healing Emotional Wounds – I See "The What," But Where's "The How"?

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  • Ralph E. Bass Jr

How do you heal emotional wounds? This article explains how change is the operative word in healing emotional wounds. It is valuable to outline a plan that will make selflessness a reality in your life. This is a plan to love because loving others addresses hurt emotions.

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Healing Emotional Wounds – What Is the Solution to Hurt Feelings?

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  • Ralph E. Bass Jr

How do you heal emotional wounds? We need to look at Christ, and the pattern he sets for us in his response to emotional hurt.

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Healing Emotional Wounds – So What Are "Hurt Feelings" Anyway?

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  • Ralph E. Bass Jr

How do you heal emotional wounds? This article addresses this matter by spelling out the difference between getting hurt and being hurt, and how the latter is sinful and thus an obstacle to healing.

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Charitable Judgments: An Antidote to Judging Others

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  • Ken Sande

Believers are obliged to judge one another’s words and actions charitably, and this is particularly important in situations of conflict. This article identifies the roots of critical judgments, and lays out the biblical teaching about the way we ought to think of and respond to others, including those who may have done wrong in the past.

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The Slippery Slope of Conflict

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  • Ken Sande

This article identifies the various ways people tend to respond to conflict, and applies the principles of the gospel to conflict resolution.

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Emotional Empathy

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  • Robert Kellemen

The insights found in this discussion of emotional empathy in this article will help pastoral caregivers to counsel believers who are involved in conflict.

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Responding Wisely to Conflict in Ministry

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  • Robert Kellemen

Using the experience of Nehemiah, and the opposition he faced while rebuilding Jerusalem, the author offers practical advice for church leaders who have to deal with conflict in ministry.

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How to Resolve Conflict Biblically

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  • Robert Kellemen

Drawing on Ken Sande’s work in The Peacemaker, this article lays out the “4 Gs” of biblical conflict resolution: Glorify God, Get the log out of your eye, Gently restore, and Go and be reconciled.

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Troubled by Triggers?

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  • Andrea Lee

This article provides advice to counsellors about how to help believers deal with “triggers”—situations, locations, words, and people that bring their sorrows to mind, and threaten to make them feel angry, anxious, or hopeless.

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Getting Lost in the Details

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  • Eliza J. Huie

People who are in conflict can get caught up in the details of situations and lose sight of the fundamental issues that live in their hearts. This article alerts counsellors to that tendency, and offers advice to help them keep the conversation on track.

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Anger Talks: Are You Listening to Yours?

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  • Betty-Anne VanRees

In this article, the author provides insights into anger, and offers ways for believers to respond to God when they feel angry.

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How to Move from Forgiveness to Reconciliation

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  • Steve Cornell

This article provides biblical instruction for who are struggling to forgive and be reconciled to those who have hurt them deeply.

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Four Things It’s Okay to Say When You’re Hurt

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  • Paul Maxwell

Reconciliation is not automatically accomplished when a hurtful action or behaviour has been forgiven. This article shows that it is legitimate for those who have been hurt to indicate that time is needed before they and/or the offender are ready for reconciliation, or, that they need advice before moving forward to reconciliation.

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The Four Promises of Forgiveness

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  • Ken Sande

This brief article identifies the four commitments believers make when they forgive one another.

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The Power of Unforgiveness When Used as a Weapon: A Case Study

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  • Rick Thomas

This article addresses the phenomenon of unforgiveness, and the power it has to take hold of the heart of a person who has been sinned against, and prevent the restoration of a broken relationship.

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Tempted to Sue? An Alternative to Resolving Disputes Among Christians

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  • Lucy A. Moll

This article addresses situations in which Christians involved in conflict might be considering legal action, and promotes a biblical and peace-seeking alternative approach.

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Christian Conflict: Five Ways to Fight It

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  • Josh Squires

This article identifies five attributes, found in Colossians 3:12-17, that believers need to cultivate to avoid or overcome conflict.

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Seven Steps to Conflict Resolution

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  • Peter Krol

This article offers basic biblical direction for Christians involved in conflict, based on Paul’s admonitions in Philippians 4:2-9.

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Five Things to Remember When You Disagree with Your Church Leaders

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  • Leah Baugh

How do you handle disagreement with your church leaders? This article identifies five things to bear in mind when dealing with disagreement in the church.

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Dealing with Hurt and Offence: What the Bible Says

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  • Timothy J. E. Cross

Christians will experience hurt and offence. How should they respond? First of all, Christians are allowed to grieve. Also, they have a Father to run to, they should pray for their enemies, and they should forgive.

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Do Not Quarrel among Brothers

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  • M. J. Oosting

This article considers what conflict in the church looks like, and how brotherly love should prevail instead. Direction is taken from Proverbs 6, as well as 1 John 3.

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Four Questions That Help Destructive Clients Examine and Self-Reflect

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  • Leslie Vernick

This article offers some questions that may encourage an abusive and destructive counsellee toward reflect upon his day and how he handled himself.

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A Biblical Anatomy of Conflict

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  • Greg Wilson

This article presents a biblical anatomy of conflict by considering James 4:1-10. It shows the cause and root of conflict, the hope in the midst of conflict, and the cure from it.

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When Is Joint Marital Counseling Contra-Indicated

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  • Leslie Vernick

This article considers three situations where marital counselling is not helpful and can even be harmful: when one of the partners is afraid to speak or be honest, only one person takes responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship, and one spouse does not become an official client.

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Resolve Conflict ASAP

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  • Paul Tautges

Conflict resolution must be undertaken as soon as possible, and here are six reasons why.

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How to Have a Confrontational Conversation

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  • Ryan Huguley

The goal of conflict resolution is to bring restoration. How do you prepare for such a confrontational conversation? The article explains that you pray, plan, and present.

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Help in Overcoming Church Hurt

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  • Josh Moody

Have you been hurt by the church? How did you deal with it? Overcoming church hurt can take some time but it is possible. This article suggests three ways one can do that.

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Five Ways to Deal with Difficult People

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  • Mike Leake

How do you deal with difficult people, also those in the church? This article offers five ways.

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The Beginner's Guide to Conflict Resolution

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  • Tim Challies

How should we resolve conflict within the church? The article offers some guidance on conflict resolution, explaining the value of raising and answering two key questions: what kind of conflict are we in, and what do we need to do to resolve this conflict?

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What to Do When You Have Blown It

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  • Al Baker

This article offers some direction on what your next step is after realizing you are the cause of broken relationships in your home.

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When Christians Hurt You

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  • Nicholas T. Batzig

How should you respond when other Christians hurt you? This article gives four principles for dealing with the pain of those who are hurting and for working towards reconciliation.

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Making Peace at Work: Resolving Conflict Biblically

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  • C12 Group

This article offers four steps to biblical conflict resolution: realize that conflict is unavoidable, initiate reconciliation, avoid lingering conflict, and release anger by turning to prayer.

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Ye will not get leave to steal quietly to heaven, in Christ’s company, without a conflict and a cross. Samuel Rutherford
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