This article explains that part of the problem we have with lust is that we learn to take a very passive view toward our thoughts. It shows how one's sexual identity should be a collaborative process with one's spouse.
Does Jesus teach in Matthew 5:28 that sexual attraction should be viewed as sinful? This article takes a closer look at the immediate context of Matthew 5:28. The context indicates that Jesus is intensifying the application of the Torah. He does not, however, add restrictions on women's clothing. Jesus is holding men rather than women responsible for possible lust.