When new members join a Reformed church, who needs to adjust, they or the church? This article discusses the question, looking at the matter of tradition, and from there demonstrating that it is not always wrong to go against a respectable tradition. The author presses the point that all man-made obstacles to evangelism should be removed in order to reach people, and raises some examples on this point, such as what to do with someone who lives in a common law relationship or has a union membership.