This article reminds the church that Christ has provided us with the resources that are needed to help people who have experienced trauma of one kind or another. The author offers several specific tips for dealing with trauma.
This article addresses the struggle of a person who has suffered trauma to find meaning in his or her experience. It provides advice for those who are called to come alongside those who suffer.
This article draws on Scripture to encourage those who are undergoing trials to trust in God.
The author encourages those experiencing tribulation by directing them to the joy that Christ holds out to believers.
This article provides solid biblical encouragement to those who are undergoing heavy trials.
This article reports that serving others has been shown to be helpful therapy for veterans suffering from post-traumatic stress. The author notes that this lines up with biblical teaching about serving others.
This article offers practical instruction for helping those who are suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. The author affirms the importance and benefits of biblical counseling.
This article offers clear and practical instruction, based on biblical principles, to those counselling people suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder. The author provides a common course of counsel in such cases.
In this article, the author provides clear biblical insight and instruction for helping those who are caught up in a crisis.
This article addresses three typical statements or popularly held beliefs about dealing with abuse in marriage. The author identifies the valid concerns reflected in each of these statements, the danger involved in applying them uncritically, and explains the better, biblical, way to think and speak about the valid concerns they express.
This article addresses three typical statements or popularly held beliefs about dealing with abuse in marriage. The author identifies the valid concerns reflected in each of these statements, the danger involved in applying them uncritically, and explains the better—biblical—way to think and speak about the valid concerns they express.
Among the most troubling things for victims of abuse to deal with are the questions that it raises about the character of God. The author uses Scripture to provide some ways in which these questions can be answered, and encourage the victims of abuse to continue to trust in the goodness and the love of God.
This article provides some diagnostic questions that may be asked of a Christian involved in a marriage in which there is emotional abuse.
The author identifies the real root of domestic violence, showing that violence is not caused by anger. Rather, anger opens up a window into the heart of a person. Biblically speaking, counselling or pastoral care must address the sinful desires of the heart, not only the sinful emotions and actions.
This article provides simple and practical advice for office-bearers and counsellors who become aware of a marriage in crisis, and want to know how best to approach the situation. A “crisis marriage” is defined by the author as any marriage that is unravelling due to adultery, violence, or some serious secret sin.
The author lays out a very practical, biblical way for office-bearers to deal with marital abuse. Not all will agree with his view on remarriage after divorce due to abuse, but that is not a central point in the article.
This article explains why biblical counselling can be an effective response to domestic abuse: it emphasizes the biblical principle of not only putting off bad behaviour, but putting on godly behaviour. It shows the value of highlighting the abusive behaviour, contrasting that with Scripture, and through the whole process calling the abuser to biblical alternatives.
This article offers three essential truths to keep in mind for those counselling victims of abuse. The responsibility for change lies with the abuser, the abused needs to focus on honouring the Lord, and a supportive church community is integral for the abused.
This article provides help to those who are in a position to minister to victimes of abuse. It points to the sufferings of Jesus, and the strength and sympathy of God.
The article provides a biblical definition of abuse that is brief, but identifies various forms or aspects of abuse. The author also gives biblical references and illustrations of the various aspects of abuse.
People who are in conflict can get caught up in the details of situations and lose sight of the fundamental issues that live in their hearts. This article alerts counsellors to that tendency, and offers advice to help them keep the conversation on track.
This article addresses the phenomenon of unforgiveness, and the power it has to take hold of the heart of a person who has been sinned against, and prevent the restoration of a broken relationship.
This article addresses situations in which Christians involved in conflict might be considering legal action, and promotes a biblical and peace-seeking alternative approach.
This article is the testimony of a believer who was helped by biblical counseling to recognize the true character of her low self-esteem.
The second of these four articles on cutting explains why more and more women are doing this, with the chief of reasons actually being rebellion against God. The article concludes by pointing to the love and the sovereignty of God as the source of relief and protection.
The first of these four articles identifies two lies that keep believers from turning to God for relief and protection from cutting, and how these lies are defeated by the gospel.
This second article in this series of two lays the foundation for a biblical definition of believers’ identity.
This article presents some fundamental insights into a believer’s understanding of self.
This article identifies warning signs for suicide, offers advice about how to become involved, and underlines the obligation we have as believers to become involved when a person threatens suicide.
This article offers biblical data and advice about suicide, and helping a person who is suicidal.
This article uses biblical data to address the question about the eternal destiny of the believer who commits suicide.
This article addresses the dilemma posed by the expectation of strict confidentiality in pastoral counselling, in the light of biblical requirements for dealing with sinners who refuse to repent.
This article provides direction to help those who minister the gospel to men whose child has been aborted.
This article offers advice for bringing the gospel to women who have had an abortion.
This article provides a short, helpful list of questions to ask the husband, and the wife, before the first post-adultery counselling session.
These articles provides husbands with practical, biblical advice on how to show true care for their wives after confessing their sin with pornography.
This article provides husbands with practical, biblical advice on how to confess their sin with pornography to their wives.
This article addresses the dynamic that often develops when an offender (adulterer or otherwise) repents, and forgiveness is promised, but the relationship is not restored because of the motives of the victim’s heart. The roles are reversed, and the victim becomes the offender. The author shows how the gospel provides the way for believers to escape this pattern.
This article addresses the struggle of a repentant adulterer, and the issue of informing his or her spouse about the sin, giving biblical guidance in resolving the question.
This article offers some insights into counselling the betrayed spouse after adultery has been discovered. It focuses especially on the issue of forgiveness, and the conditions under which it is to be given.
Not all widows are aged, but most are. This article offers insights and advice to help believers as well as those providing pastoral care minister more effectively to widows.
This article gives advice to those who are providing counseling or pastoral care to believers who have dementia, and their families.
This article draws on the writing of Puritan pastor, Richard Baxter, to offer advice, in “alphabetical order,” to those who must provide pastoral care to the aging.
This article encourages the church to take note of senior members, and to care for them well.
The author offers words of encouragement from God’s Word to those who care for people suffering from dementia.
This article discusses the heart of the counsellor who is called to minister to those struggling with addictions. It explains how counselling reveals areas of sins in the counsellor's own life as well.
This article considers the tendency of counsellees to super-size their addiction issues. The author explains that these issues, though complicated, are not more than what Christ and the local church can address. The family of faith needs to biblically address the various components that drive the choices behind the addiction.
This article is excerpted from a devotional book, and speaks a word of encouragement to those who are addicted.
This article offers basic and clear advice to those who love and care for people who are addicts. It does not provide an extensive list of specific actions, but guides the caregiver in his or her approach.
This article spells out some of the basic differences between various forms of secular psychology, and the perspective and approach of biblical counselling. He shows that although secular psychology is in many ways fundamentally flawed, biblical counselors can make use of things that secular psychology has recognized.
The author shows that behavioral therapy, even when called "Christian" and used by Christian psychologists, does not rely on the crucified Christ and the life-giving Spirit. While it may be effective in altering behavior, it is not genuine Christian heart-changing counseling.
This article encourages churches to develop a culture in which ministry is provided for those who are suffering with depression.
How does one navigate through spiritual depression? This article suggests that personal discipline is required in six critical areas.
What exactly is catastrophizing? This article explains what this is in relation to depression. It provides a biblical example of catastrophizing in the story of Elijah fleeing Jezebel after the contest of the prophets of Baal (1 Kings 19). Finally, it offers a response to catastrophizing: recognize, refocus, pray, and love.
This article on depression explains different approaches to counselling depressed people. It dwells particularly on imbalanced approaches that either oversimplify or complicate the issue. It ends by showing how counselling can give hope to the depressed.